From Blame And Guilt To Forgiveness

How often do you blame others for your troubles? How often do you get angry with someone who has hurt you or has done something wrong? How often do you blame yourself for not being or doing what you should? How often do you feel guilty for your words or behaviours? And what do you…

Finding joy in simple actions

A friend of mine asked me the other day why I haven’t been updating my blog recently. The truth is I discovered the new (or rediscovered the old?) dimension of joy – the joy of simple things and actions. I always thought that I didn’t like cooking, cleaning, washing up, food shopping etc. I would…

You Can’t Run Away From Yourself

I’m sure we all have used the phrase “You cannot run from yourself”, but do we really know what it means? Do we understand its deep and profound meaning? Wherever you go, you carry your “I” with you. Do you feel dissatisfied with a city, village, country you live in? With work you do? With…

What Is Identity?

Why do we feel homesick? Why do we miss our friends? Why do we miss our looks from five years ago? Why do we miss health, beauty, youth? Why do we even miss how and what we felt in the past? Why? I have gone through all of these questions and even more since I…

I caught a thought! (Or how to raise your frequency)

I have previously written about the connection between our thoughts, emotions and health. It has been proven by various researches that our health is linked to our thoughts and emotions. Someone who is truly happy and loving is likely to be much healthier than someone who is stressed, anxious or angry all the time. But…

A Lesson On Trust And Acceptance

When I arrived in Hanoi I didn’t like it at first. I was so looking forward to changing my life and leaving behind the exhausting rat race lifestyle and my boring office job, but here I was – feeling dissatisfied. I saw everything around me through a fog of expectations and mental exhaustion. It took…

Relationships and the desire to control others

Whenever you are confronted with an opponent, conquer him with love. – Mahatma Gandhi Have you ever met a person who doesn’t know how to do things properly, doesn’t care or simply lacks common sense? Someone who is completely inconsiderate? Or perhaps you are constantly getting told off for not doing things right? Or not…

Perceptions and Reality

I always feel a slight nudge of inspiration a day or two before I sit and write a new blog entry. I feel inspired, but more often than not I don’t know what I am going to write about until the last minute, when a particular topic suddenly becomes clear in mind. And that’s how…

Enjoy your journey

I took a bus yesterday from Tallinn back to Narva, where I am staying for the next couple of weeks. The bus journey started with the usual greetings from the driver. Then he said, “Relax and enjoy your journey. This is your time. When you leave the bus at the end of your journey, you…

Self-love, thoughts and feelings

Have you ever thought how much we depend on the opinions of other people and how we judge ourselves based on what others expect from us? Or what we think others may expect from us? Let me give you an example. Starting and writing a blog can be a real challenge. It can lead to…

Why self-love?

Welcome to Enlightened Self-Love blog! The purpose of this blog is to share the insights and experiences that I’ve gathered on my self-love journey to inspire you to embark on yours. Self-love has been misunderstood, misinterpreted and abandoned for a long time. It has been confused with ego and the organised religious institutions all over…